This was sent to me from something posted in a private group. A person who read my blog asked the author for permission to submit it to me, and after getting it, sent it to me to post. Here is the post, unedited, as it was sent to me:
I seriously wish I would have thought about circumcision more b4 my son was born. We didn’t know his sex until the day he was born and for some dumb reason I figured while I was pregnant that the time between when he was born and when they asked if we wanted him circ’d or not would be plenty of time for my husband and I to discuss and decide. Unfortunately, we chose to circ him, mostly because my husband is and figured why not (it’s still sinking in how ignorant and nonchalant that sounds), but at the time we were just that ignorant. Now after researching and reading all these posts on the AP boards, I really regret not having thought about it much sooner so we would have been able to make a better decision.
Okay, I said all that to really say this… when I was pregnant I went out to lunch with 5 of the guys I work with. The topic came up with the 60 something year old part time guy about if we knew the sex of our baby, I said no, and he said well, “if it’s a boy you’d better not cut him!” And he didn’t say it quietly! So we started talking about circ’ing and he very strongly apposed it, BUT he wouldn’t give a good reason. From there we ending up talking about the history of the penis and the foreskin and it’s purpose. That discussion ended in a loud debate over religion and by the end of lunch I walked away thinking my God that man must have had his penis hacked off by a terrible doctor or something. It never once made me think about leaving my son intact. I really upsets me one: that he didn’t give any good reason to not circ, if he had I probably would have began researching in time to save my son, and two, because I completely missed the huge lesson of the whole lunch and that was that there were two options… that had never occurred to me before.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that a totally over the top approach might steer people in the circ’ing direction out of pure fear of the unknown (I think that’s where I was when we decided for it), the guy at lunch just seemed like a freak and I didn’t want my son to be like him! As you all have said a gentler more informative approach would have been GREAT! I would have much more likely listened to someone who gave me unbiased info and references. And isn’t it kind of going along with AP to respect other parents and help them make informed decisions using the same kind of techniques we all use with out kids? We can’t force parents not to circ by trying to control them through manipulative guilt tripping, excessively overdone poems, etc… coming from someone who wishes she’d gotten advice, I really wish someone would have just been open and honest and out loud about it… its like people don’t talk about circ’ing because it’s like politics and religion times 100 because it’s regarding a penis. I just wish I had heard a lot more about it from a lot of people… friends, doctors, in my birthing class… but definitely NOT in the form of a holier-than-thow-you’re-ruining-your-baby-forever-if-u-circ mass email/personal conversation/bulletin board post slaughter of anyone with genuine questions. Make any sense?