Well, I’ve taken my break. I don’t know if I am back for another round of posts, or if this will be a one-off. But I just had to write. My topic? Fear.
Attacktivists fear blogs like this, that point out the truth of their drama-ridden, backstabbing, paranoid advocacy. An advocacy fueled by lies, exaggerations, false profiles, and above all NO CHALLENGES. Nobody is allowed to question. NOBODY is allowed to have a view that is anything but lockstep for these advocates. Thankfully, it is not all intactivists, but a loud portion of them does demand exactly this.
The same attacktivists that post another advocates child FOR SALE on a pedo site (Sarah Cathryn for those not familiar) run in fear from anyone who challenges them. Questions them. Their silly little troll group is full of BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK MUST BLOCK IMMEDIATELY OH FUCK BLOCK. Gosh, that sounds like fear, to me. Attacktivists are scared, because their status is derived from their attacktivism. They don’t want to change, because they get off on it. So they fear those pushing for a change, for a better advocacy.
Sorry, attacktivists. Your number is up. You will change or you will become obsolete. Because too many of us are fed up with this ineffective advocacy, an advocacy that is doing nothing to change the popularity of circumcision. An advocacy that is made up of rumor peddlers, attack junkies, violent men’s rights advocates, shamers, people with a strange obsession with child sex, gaslighters, lovers of violent language. People are getting tired of the backroom gossip, the backstabbing, the immediate removal and blocking of those who are sick to death of the panic at a few simple names. Kayla. Jeni. PENIS. Don’t you dare mention or defend those names. Don’t.You.DARE friend them. Because attacktivism thinks they can control who you talk to and how you talk to them. Not even them. Circumcising parents, oh those evil cutters? Attack. Attack or you’re just as bad as the cutters. You’re a ‘fence sitter’.
Attacktivists go after businesses, as well, if they don’t come out with statements that will alienate half or more of their customers. Doctors are gone after over rumors. Hospitals are attacked over rumors. Come, attacktivists, do you really think that’s going to work? That’s fear. Fear because you know if you pop up in a circ debate, those of us who are tired of the bullshit will counter it.
And oh, yes, oh yes your silly little groups are being screen capped. When you stalk people’s phone numbers and publish them in your groups, when you put doctors phone numbers, when you post your fear all over the place (BLOCK IMMEDIATELY BLOCK BLOCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK BLOCK) yes, we see it. We see all of it. Not because any of us have alts in those groups, nope. It’s because there are so many people who are just fucking done with that kind of idiocy.
You fear us, not because we are attacking, bullying or doxxing you. Not because we are spreading lies everywhere about you. Those are things you do. You fear us because you know you are dinosaurs, and your time is coming to an end. It’s almost over. Attacktivism is on it’s way out. So how about you jump ship instead of going down with it? Our movement is growing at an exponential rate.
Our movement is about ending circumcision, not about our egos. Not giving carte blanche to ‘victims’ to talk to people however they want. Not about painting a false narrative of what circumcision is and isn’t. We don’t need those stupid tools. Those are tools of weak and intellectually lazy advocates. We have better tools.
This doesn’t have to be a war. Shouldn’t be a war, in fact.
But while you’re frothing, how about you read this? There is some good stuff in there. Stuff that will ‘save’ babies. But oh no, you have to humanize those awful cutters. Well, I guess the question is the same one I’ve wondered for years now…which is more important? Your ego? Or ending circumcision?
There are five steps:
- Active Listening: Listen to their side and make them aware you’re listening.
- Empathy: You get an understanding of where they’re coming from and how they feel.
- Rapport: Empathy is what you feel. Rapport is when they feel it back. They start to trust you.
- Influence: Now that they trust you, you’ve earned the right to work on problem solving with them and recommend a course of action.
- Behavioral Change: They act. (And maybe come out with their hands up.)