The Fear of the Attacktivists

Well, I’ve taken my break.  I don’t know if I am back for another round of posts, or if this will be a one-off.  But I just had to write.  My topic? Fear.

Attacktivists fear blogs like this, that point out the truth of their drama-ridden, backstabbing, paranoid advocacy.  An advocacy fueled by lies, exaggerations, false profiles, and above all NO CHALLENGES.  Nobody is allowed to question.  NOBODY is allowed to have a view that is anything but lockstep for these advocates.  Thankfully, it is not all intactivists, but a loud portion of them does demand exactly this.

The same attacktivists that post another advocates child FOR SALE on a pedo site (Sarah Cathryn for those not familiar) run in fear from anyone who challenges them.  Questions them.  Their silly little troll group is full of BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK MUST BLOCK IMMEDIATELY OH FUCK BLOCK.  Gosh, that sounds like fear, to me.  Attacktivists are scared, because their status is derived from their attacktivism.  They don’t want to change, because they get off on it.  So they fear those pushing for a change, for a better advocacy.

Sorry, attacktivists.  Your number is up.  You will change or you will become obsolete. Because too many of us are fed up with this ineffective advocacy, an advocacy that is doing nothing to change the popularity of circumcision.  An advocacy that is made up of rumor peddlers, attack junkies, violent men’s rights advocates, shamers, people with a strange obsession with child sex, gaslighters, lovers of violent language.  People are getting tired of the backroom gossip, the backstabbing, the immediate removal and blocking of those who are sick to death of the panic at a few simple names.  Kayla.  Jeni.  PENIS.  Don’t you dare mention or defend those names.  Don’t.You.DARE friend them.  Because attacktivism thinks they can control who you talk to and how you talk to them.  Not even them.  Circumcising parents, oh those evil cutters?  Attack.  Attack or you’re just as bad as the cutters.  You’re a ‘fence sitter’.

Attacktivists go after businesses, as well, if they don’t come out with statements that will alienate half or more of their customers.  Doctors are gone after over rumors.  Hospitals are attacked over rumors.  Come, attacktivists, do you really think that’s going to work?  That’s fear.  Fear because you know if you pop up in a circ debate, those of us who are tired of the bullshit will counter it.

And oh, yes, oh yes your silly little groups are being screen capped.  When you stalk people’s phone numbers and publish them in your groups, when you put doctors phone numbers, when you post your fear all over the place (BLOCK IMMEDIATELY BLOCK BLOCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK BLOCK) yes, we see it.  We see all of it.  Not because any of us have alts in those groups, nope.  It’s because there are so many people who are just fucking done with that kind of idiocy.

You fear us, not because we are attacking, bullying or doxxing you.  Not because we are spreading lies everywhere about you.  Those are things you do.  You fear us because you know you are dinosaurs, and your time is coming to an end.  It’s almost over.  Attacktivism is on it’s way out.  So how about you jump ship instead of going down with it?  Our movement is growing at an exponential rate.

Our movement is about ending circumcision, not about our egos.  Not giving carte blanche to ‘victims’ to talk to people however they want.  Not about painting a false narrative of what circumcision is and isn’t.  We don’t need those stupid tools.  Those are tools of weak and intellectually lazy advocates.  We have better tools.
This doesn’t have to be a war.  Shouldn’t be a war, in fact.
But while you’re frothing, how about you read this?  There is some good stuff in there.  Stuff that will ‘save’ babies.  But oh no, you have to humanize those awful cutters.  Well, I guess the question is the same one I’ve wondered for years now…which is more important?  Your ego?  Or ending circumcision?

There are five steps:

  1. Active Listening: Listen to their side and make them aware you’re listening.
  2. Empathy: You get an understanding of where they’re coming from and how they feel.
  3. Rapport: Empathy is what you feel. Rapport is when they feel it back. They start to trust you.
  4. Influence: Now that they trust you, you’ve earned the right to work on problem solving with them and recommend a course of action.
  5. Behavioral Change: They act. (And maybe come out with their hands up.)

8 responses to “The Fear of the Attacktivists

  • Jeremy Miller

    This should show how afraid we are (link removed as bad, try again)
    the findings of the so called “Task force” Have been debunked as garbage and the faith of the American people in the AAP on this issue has been critically damaged.

    We are not afraid, merely determined to see this degenerate subhuman tribal ritual come to an end.

    • paper0airplane

      I’ve seen a lot of fear and bad tactics…especially amongst a particularly drama laden group of women. I’m not sure what someone’s looks have to do with circumcision or really anything but that’s what they go after. Looks, depression, addiction, any and every low blow they can. So does the “watching mutilation watch”. Frankly I get why it happened but the point was long made and at this point neither of the two sides has any moral high ground.

      So instead of the idiotic constant drama, especially over fucking “intactocopping” maybe actually listen to good information and incorporate it instead of dismissing it and attacking because it came from a “bad” person. Such weird moral relativism going on.

  • subfindertaipei

    I’ve been thinking about this issue a lot lately, but I’m hoping to stop soon. I honesty don’t think it’s healthy for intactivists to spend so much time obsessing about genitlia. I also wonder if part of the reason they use such aggressive tactics is not because they think it will work but because they enjoy being mean and insulting. If that’s the case, getting them to stop might be next to impossible. What if their motivation is satisfying a personal need and intactivism is just a covinient outlet? It doesn’t really matter to me because I tend to avoid extremists of all kinds.
    Anyway, I was thinking that the best way to drastically reduce circumcision is just making it a little harder for parents to get. Right now, all parents of baby boys born in hospitals are asked if hey would like their son to be circumcised and it’s usually asked as casually as a waiter offering dessert. Why? Why not wait for parents to request it? I think it would have made a difference when my son was born if my husband had had to put out at least a little bit of effort. I don’t think they were trying to make money off of us. I think they were just doing their jobs. I have no idea how to get hospitals to drop routine circumcision from their new baby checklist, but I do think that a subtle shift at the hospital (ie not offering circumcision until the parent requests it) would spark a change in the public’s perception (or misperception) of routine circumcision.

    • paper0airplane

      I agree I think that would be a good way to go. When the NHS (and equivalent) in the UK and Australia quit covering it, the procedure dropped off significantly. However, there has been too much time for it to become part of the American National identity, for reasons I (and intactivists, let’s be honest) don’t exactly understand. I really don’t understand exactly why it is such a this-is-what-we-do-in-America thing. I really don’t. Cognitive dissonance explains some of the resistance, and yes the beliefs about the health and serial benefits also add to it, but the “it’s just what we do” thinking of it? Like it’s just another small, necessary and unpleasant part of having a baby, like the vitamin k (I picked that because that is definitely necessary), the pku heel stick, or the eye goop. I don’t know where that came from. Why is it just something we do?

      If doctors actively advocate against it they’d alienate patients. Considering the malpractice issues with OB and the fact that your patient perceiving you as having having a good rapport is protective against malpractice, it’s unwise at best. So I do think your idea is good. Small shifts away from the assumption that it will be done to it being soley the parents choice, with objective literature explaining the small benefits, smaller risks and lack of necessity.

      Good thought.

  • Ross

    Why is there no “about” or “contact” section for this blog? Who are you and what is your background or reason for interest in this issue?

  • Penny L.

    Hi, can you please email me? I’m looking into seeing who this Sarah Cathryn is — she seems to be spamming hate messages about anti-circumcision. Trying to see if it’s the same person.

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