Aubrey Elle, the woman who dug up some poor woman’s phone number and started harassing her (and posted it in a group called Intactivists Stop Circumcision, calling on others to also harass the woman) via text message, wrote this lovely post proving my point. Thank you, Aubrey Elle. The fear is quite obvious in your post. You attempt to hide it in sanctimony, but unfortunately you failed.
You might ask “who has time to worry about who other people, other ADULTS, are friends with?” Or maybe “who has time to dig up some poor woman’s phone because she used the word circumcision, and post it in a group to incite them to harass her?”.
Circumcision is not rape, it is not a crime, and it is not torture. Circumcision is an unnecessary procedure, yes. A crime? No. If you believe it is a crime how about you call the police and let them know about the “illegal” circumcision? It’s not a crime. Or let them know about all the “rapes” and “torture” being perpetrated in the hospital? Still no? Yeah. I figured.
Aubrey, disagreement is not a personal attack. Having a different opinion doesn’t make someone a bad person. And holding these preconceived notions about someone because they want to circumcise their children just leads you to be an ineffective advocate.
People who circumcise their children love their children just as much as people who don’t. They are either uninformed or they came to a different conclusion. It is definitely possible to change minds. It’s even possible to change someone’s mind if they circumcised their first. Intactivists call them regret parents. But the funny thing is, they attack people who have had the conversation with their adult son, and quit flagellating themselves. The issue is a personal one, between that parent and their son. To demand lifelong gut wrenching, depressing, even perpetual self-victimizing is counterintuative and pointless.
But back to what I was saying earlier, circumcising parents love their children just as much. And many people can be educated and talked to and will change their minds. However, if you use ineffective words or incorrect information…and the hyperbole that is oozing out of your post, you’ve lost more than you could have won. It’s a bad plan. And then to blame it on them and use that as an excuse to rage at them? It’s unhealthy to keep stoking your own rage. I understand it’s supposed to ‘prove’ how much circumcision disgusts you, but it just damages you. And damages the cause you are supposed to hold so dear. That rage is all ego. It has nothing to do with ending circumcision.
So..drop the ego. Make it an actual priority to end circumcision instead of gossiping about people in closed groups. Come out of the shadow. You can help end circumcision, or you can continue with your misguided attacks. Against us. Against other anti-circumcision advocates. And against the parents who don’t immediately change their mind and agree (that’s lazy, by the way…to expect people to watch a YouTube video and change their mind immediately).
In the meantime, might I suggest you check out the link on my previous post?